Thinking you can be happy by fixing one problem area of your life won’t work. You need to change the broader picture.
We all have some struggle we face in life. Some challenge we seek to overcome that seems insurmountable, or keeps coming back after we think we’ve beaten it (raise your hand if you’ve lost weight only to gain it back again).
This applies to challenges in all areas of our life–fitness (the weight-loss yo-yo), business (beat one competitor only to have another one rise up) , relationship issues (get past one fight with your significant other only to have another one later), and more.
Why is that? Why do challenges often seem insurmountable in the long-term even when we may over-come them in the short-term?
It’s because these challenges are all just symptoms of a bigger issue.
The reality is, we are complex and interrelated beings where how we feel about one thing in our life bleeds into other areas. We take work problems home with us. We bring home problems to work. We think getting through this one thing will make everything better.
And it never happens.
As a life coach, people come to me for all kinds of different reasons. Whatever brings them to me invariably becomes just one part of what we work on because you can’t make meaningful, lasting change in your life by compartmentalizing each problem as if it exists in a vacuum.
This post is inspired by my best-selling book, “Do a Day: How to Live a Better Life Every Day” available in print, eBook and audio book formats. It originally appeared in my Inc.comcolumn on October 6th, 2017.